Miyerkules, Setyembre 14, 2011

How to deal with Bullying and Cyber-bullying


Bullying affects many of us, kids and adults alike, and can leave anyone feeling hurt, angry, frightened, and even depressed or overwhelmed. Those who bully often experience their own psychological problems as well. Technology has made the problem of bullying even more widespread. Cyber-bullying can occur via email, texts, cell phones, and social media websites 24 hours a day, seven days a week, with potentially thousands of people involved.
Because bullying is so common, many people think it’s normal and should be tolerated. But it doesn’t have to be. By learning about why some kids bully and why others are bullied, you can help yourself or a loved one deal with bullying, and develop the resilience and self-confidence to succeed in life.

tips for the skinny man

Many men spend a lot of time dieting and working out to achieve a slimmer physique, all while harboring serious hate for their skinny counterparts who can eat whatever they please without gaining weight. Because society tends to equate being lean with being attractive (and even healthy), it's easy to forget that being too thin is a real problem that some men face. And by "some men," we're not referring to waif-like teenage boys or hipsters who live in skinny jeans, but men who want to shed their skinny physique.

When it comes to fashion, just as overweight individuals find it tough to buy clothes that are flattering for a larger body, skinny men experience difficulty finding clothes that fit well and complement their smaller frames.

One way to bulk up is to join a gym and start lifting weights, alongside eating more protein and other foods that will add muscle mass to a bony body. However, don't worry if you hate exercise or can't seem to fit it into your day, because we've put together a collection of tips to dress a skinny body type that will help you create the visual illusion of being larger than you are.

Buy blazers with small shoulder padding

To make your upper body look more muscular, purchase blazers with light shoulder padding. Be warned that bigger is not better here, as small shoulder pads will give your back and chest a visual boost, but massive padding will make you seem like a small boy lost in a man's jacket in addition to cheapening your look, even if your blazer is pricey.

Avoid slim-fitting shirts

Slim-fit, yes; skinny, no. Avoiding skinny dress shirts and T-shirts is an important fashion tip for skinny men. Instead, opt for tops that are fitted and allow some movement from your midsection, as these will hide a small ribcage. In addition, avoid clingy fabrics. Check the labels on your tops to make sure they don’t contain too much elastic. Don't buy your tops too large, though, as excess fabric will make you seem like you’re swimming in your shirt.

Tailor your blazers

Only wear single- or double-breasted blazers and make sure to tailor them so they fit properly throughout your entire body. Avoid any loose fabric under the arms or in the shoulder area. Also, a key fashion tip for skinny men is to keep consistency in your tops and bottoms, so don’t wear oversize blazers or sweaters with fitted pants (or vice versa) or your thin frame will be glaringly apparent.

Wear jackets at the right length

When it comes to jackets, make sure they all fall right under your buttocks. A shorter jacket will emphasize your height as well as your skinny waist, arms and legs. A longer jacket, on the other hand, can make you look like a blanket-covered stick. Thus, strike the right balance.

Wear flat-front pants

Your pants should have a classic cut and remain simple with a flat front. Go for straight-leg or slightly boot-cut shapes and steer clear of tapered trousers or skinny jeans. Pockets also add a bit more volume to your shape, as do cuffs, but wear pants with the latter feature only when it is in fashion. Don't be afraid to wear pants with lines or patterns because these add volume, although you’ll want to banish pinstripes from your closet as they will make you look like a beanpole.

why do you have enemies?

Now it's fine and dandy to know how to get rid of your nemeses (or contain them when planting them six feet under is not on the agenda). But you also have to ask yourself a fundamental question: Why do I have these enemies in the first place?

Eliminating the enemies you have also means making less of them in the first place. It's always easier not to have any enemies than it is to wipe out several of them. Blood is very expensive. You want to avoid any drawn out vendettas. It's distracting, it's exhausting, and it can be deadly. Why take a pill for a headache when it's easier to avoid the headache in the first place?

If you find yourself always drawing enemies, you have to ask yourself what it is you do to draw so many beefs with so many people. Understanding the kind of enemies you have will help you minimize them. If you run a successful and lucrative business, there is very little you can do to avoid having adversaries. If you live by yourself on a mountain and people want to nuke your property, maybe you got the problem, not them. Determine if the reason for having enemies is justifiable and inevitable (i.e. a competitive industry), or is caused by your personality.